We have a very important saying in the Anderson family. Every man who has joined the clan (I have five sisters) had to first learn our mantra. Whenever a woman asks them a question, this should be their response. “You’re pretty and you’re skinny!”
For all you male readers, you could also really benefit by learning this phrase. I’ll demonstrate how it works.
Female: “Does this dress make me look fat?” Male: You’re pretty and you’re skinny!
Female: “Is that girl prettier than me?” Male: You’re pretty and you’re skinny!”
Female: “Should we eat in or get take out tonight?” Male: You’re pretty and you’re skinny!”
Female: “Why do you keep leaving the toilet seat up?” Male: “You’re pretty and you’re skinny!”
Are you getting it? It’s really a win-win situation no matter how you cut it! Anyway, I’m telling you all this because it relates to today’s topic. I want to talk a bit more about motivation and how having someone there to encourage, affirm and partner with us helps us reach our nutrition and fitness goals.
I already know it’s really important to me. I’m always more motivated to work out when I have a buddy, whether we are taking a power walk together, meeting for a class, or running a race. It holds me accountable to show up when I know someone is waiting for me, and it just makes the workout more fun. It also really inspires me when someone notices the progress I’ve made (Affirmation, as well as sushi, is my love language! Thankfully, Shea has been well-trained to assure me that I’m pretty and skinny on a regular basis!).
As Dr. Adam Shafran, an exercise physiologist and chiropractor who wrote You Can’t Lose Weight Alone: The Partner Power Weight Loss Program said, “Most people put all their effort into finding the right diet or exercise program but don’t put any energy into creating a support and accountability system, and too often, that’s where the devil lies.”
There are plenty of studies to back this up. For example, in research published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology in 2005, doctors at Brown Medical School and Dartmouth University found that people who had an exercise buddy who successfully lost weight were more successful at losing, too.
As many of us know, it’s easy to get discouraged when you’re working so hard to get results, whether you’re trying to improve your overall health or shed some pounds. In fact, discouragement is what leads so many people to give up, even when they are so close to reaching their goals or making progress. This is where a kind word or an invitation to do something active with a friend or family member can make all the difference!
So, if you’re trying to improve your diet, ramp up your exercise routine, train for a race, stabilize your blood pressure or reach any other health or fitness goal, make sure you’re surrounding yourself with positive, encouraging people who will inspire you to stay on track and even partner with you in your healthy lifestyle changes. Tell them about your goals and ask them to hold you accountable for the choices you make. Also, make sure you are influencing the people around you for the better. It’s so frustrating to me when people tease me for making exercise a priority or try to convince me not to order the salad over the fries. Don’t be a hater! Even if we don’t need to lose any weight, we can all benefit from eating a little lighter and staying active.
Here are a couple of interesting articles I found on this subject:
Have a great Thursday, and go tell someone that they are pretty and skinny!
“Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!” ~ Anne Frank
Some come from ahead and some come from behind.
But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see.
Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!”
~ Dr. Seuss
P.S. What motivates you to live your best life? Is it affirming words, having a workout buddy, or something else? I want to hear from you!