You’re Pretty and You’re Skinny!

We have a very important saying in the Anderson family.  Every man who has joined the clan (I have five sisters) had to first learn our mantra. Whenever a woman asks them a question, this should be their response. “You’re pretty and you’re skinny!”

For all you male readers, you could also really benefit by learning this phrase.  I’ll demonstrate how it works.

Female: “Does this dress make me look fat?”  Male: You’re pretty and you’re skinny!

Female: “Is that girl prettier than me?”  Male: You’re pretty and you’re skinny!”

Female: “Should we eat in or get take out tonight?” Male: You’re pretty and you’re skinny!”

Female: “Why do you keep leaving the toilet seat up?”  Male: “You’re pretty and you’re skinny!”

Are you getting it?  It’s really a win-win situation no matter how you cut it! Anyway, I’m telling you all this because it relates to today’s topic.  I want to talk a bit more about motivation and how having someone there to encourage, affirm and partner with us helps us reach our nutrition and fitness goals.

I already know it’s really important to me.  I’m always more motivated to work out when I have a buddy, whether we are taking a power walk together, meeting for a class, or running a race.  It holds me accountable to show up when I know someone is waiting for me, and it just makes the workout more fun.  It also really inspires me when someone notices the progress I’ve made (Affirmation, as well as sushi, is my love language! Thankfully, Shea has been well-trained to assure me that I’m pretty and skinny on a regular basis!).

As Dr. Adam Shafran, an exercise physiologist and chiropractor who wrote You Can’t Lose Weight Alone: The Partner Power Weight Loss Program said, “Most people put all their effort into finding the right diet or exercise program but don’t put any energy into creating a support and accountability system, and too often, that’s where the devil lies.”

There are plenty of studies to back this up.  For example, in research published in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology in 2005, doctors at Brown Medical School and Dartmouth University found that people who had an exercise buddy who successfully lost weight were more successful at losing, too.

As many of us know, it’s easy to get discouraged when you’re working so hard to get results, whether you’re trying to improve your overall health or shed some pounds.  In fact, discouragement is what leads so many people to give up, even when they are so close to reaching their goals or making progress.  This is where a kind word or an invitation to do something active with a friend or family member can make all the difference!

So, if you’re trying to improve your diet, ramp up your exercise routine, train for a race, stabilize your blood pressure or reach any other health or fitness goal, make sure you’re surrounding yourself with positive, encouraging people who will inspire you to stay on track and even partner with you in your healthy lifestyle changes.  Tell them about your goals and ask them to hold you accountable for the choices you make.  Also, make sure you are influencing the people around you for the better.  It’s so frustrating to me when people tease me for making exercise a priority or try to convince me not to order the salad over the fries.  Don’t be a hater!  Even if we don’t need to lose any weight, we can all benefit from eating a little lighter and staying active.

Here are a couple of interesting articles I found on this subject:

Gain Self-Esteem and Lose Weight

Self-Esteem, Support Key to Realistic Weight Loss

Have a great Thursday, and go tell someone that they are pretty and skinny!

“Everyone has inside them a piece of good news. The good news is you don’t know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!” ~ Anne Frank

“I have heard there are troubles of more than one kind.
Some come from ahead and some come from behind.
But I’ve bought a big bat. I’m all ready you see.
Now my troubles are going to have troubles with me!”

~ Dr. Seuss

P.S. What motivates you to live your best life?  Is it affirming words, having a workout buddy, or something else?  I want to hear from you!

4 Comments

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4 responses to “You’re Pretty and You’re Skinny!

  1. As I read your blog today, I was just thinking of how pretty and skinny you looked while writing it! 🙂 Great post and good resources – I’m writing a whole chapter on the importance of support in my book on life after weight loss so I was nodding my head in agreement. What motivates me to live my best life is the realization that it provides the mental, physical and spiritual actuity to handle all that I’m currently doing and trying to accomplish in the world. Diving into a pack of chocolates leads to a sugar crash, decreased concentration for work or writing and I’m more irritable with my boyfriend – just makes sense to avoid the stuff.

  2. Ginny Hoyle Lawrimore

    I really like this post for a lot of reasons, but I think it really, for me, hits on the societal pressure to be (percieved as) thin. My mom always (half-seriously, half-jokingly) says that in my family, “it’s better to be an idiot than be fat.” I’d love to see some more posts on body image – I really think that’s half of the battle. Also, am wondering about the pros and cons of calorie counting? (It’s something I do for a while and then get bored with – it’s kind of like what you said with weight-watchers though, in that diet sodas are 0 calories, but have no real nutritional value). Happy blogging, and keep them coming! 🙂

    • Thanks for your comment little married lady! I completely agree that body image is half the battle. For me, I think it’s more like 90% of the battle! I’ll try to keep up the posts on this topic and other things related to motivation.

      As for the calorie counting, I’m okay with it as long as you are really looking at the quality of the food. For instance, an avocado is high in fat, but it’s so good for you, while a fat-free cookie might be lower in fat/calories, but it’s completely artificial. You have to do what works for you, but for me, ever since I let go of all the counting of calories, fat grams, carbs, fiber and points and just focused on eating more whole foods, I’ve lost weight and felt better than ever. At the same time, I have to be aware of my trigger foods, the ones that can send me over the edge and make sure I limit them. One more thing, I also think that our bodies have different caloric needs every day, depending on how our immune system is doing, our cycle, the amount of exercise, and a billion other things, so if you are going to count calories, I would give yourself a range rather than a set amount. I love you and hope married life is treating you well! Thanks for reading my blog!

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